The Desire for Control

The second subtle desire that often pulls us off course is our insatiable desire for control. The desire to control one’s life is placed within us at an early age and cultivated by our socialization process. We are taught to control our emotions, especially boys. And once we transition to adulthood we are taught that control of our environment is tantamount to success as a social contributor in the moneymaking machinery we call the free market economy.

Many people see that control is the ultimate tool for success in any of life’s dimensions—including the spiritual realm of enlightenment. However, control is not ultimately satisfying because you are always tethered to a struggle with opponents who also want control. It is an endless competition. It is an outgrowth of the three-dimensional construct that there are winners and losers, and it’s better to be a winner.

Well, yes, in the world of the dollar it is hard to argue with that logic. However, the ambition of control is a tireless master who requires that you work hard, keep focused on your duties of the social order, and make certain that the world in which you operate does not spin out of control. Control will become increasingly more fleeting in the next seven years because the dimensional shift that is underway will make the rigid institutions of our social order change, and in some instances, crumble.

This means that those who seek to control and micro-manage their lives will find it more difficult to keep their emotional balance. When their emotional balance shifts to and fro in disorder, they will feel the pulse of the world quicken and stress will pour over them as if they were directly beneath its waterfall.

The antidote of willful control is the demonstration to yourself that you know how to shift into self-security when you feel insecure; how to shift into expression of the heart virtues when you bump up against a life challenge; and how to shift into surrender to your when you feel your ego looming large.

All easier said than done—to be certain, but then emotional self-mastery is a goal not a destination. Remember this. No one is looking down on you from some impenetrable height and judging your imperfect expression of the six heart virtues. When you judge yourself, there is often a sense of appropriateness in the judgment. This is actually a control response. If only you could control your emotions better. If only you could shift to the six heart virtues quicker. If only you could forgive easier and not hold a grudge against a friend or family member.

You can stand firmly on the idea that when you embark on this journey there will be times when you misstep, fall short and make “mistakes.” There may even be times when you will feel the rug has been pulled out from under you and you are helpless, without solution, and mired in self-loathing. It is in these times that you will need to apply the wisdom of your journey into emotional self-mastery, and though it may be imperfect or otherwise untested, it will serve you better than any other alternative advice, because, just as the ancients observed—the heart is the seat of the soul.

Call on this wisdom, not the abstraction of God or the “higher powers.” Call on your own wisdom of the six heart virtues and learn how to shift into their expression when life’s challenges knock upon your door. In doing this, you will teach others around you through this expression and intent. In doing this, you will change the electromagnetic field that surrounds you, the light ratio of your energetic field. Further, it will attract the likeness of conditions, as well as provide you with improved emotional health, mental clarity and physical well-being.